When hubs and I first met, he was living with his best friend and his best friend's girlfriend. I didn't like the gf too much. She was a stripper with a bad attitude that always complained about me coming over to see my husband. So I just didn't really talk to her.
Fast forward 4 years. We had been living together for a while, already had a daughter together and I was pregnant with our son. The girl had long broken up with my husband's best friend and my husband hadn't talked to him in a couple of years since he turned out to be a pretty shady dude. Gf contacted my husband via FB to ask how life's been, etc. She got my phone number from him as she was pregnant and wanted some mommy friends. I thought it was weird. She called and we talked a few times but every time she tried to hang out with me I made excuses because I just didn't know her like that and don't often trust people.
Finally, after my son was born, I decided it couldn't hurt to meet up with her. She acted really "inspired by me". She had a troubled past and was now working as a paralegal at a law firm, pregnant with her first child, I thought she genuinely wanted a new life and looked up to me because I was a "family woman". Over the course of a year, her and I hung out several times. I even threw this girl a baby shower. But last year I stopped calling her because an incident happened at her house that sort of showed she was into drama and I don't have time for people like that. So I just distanced myself and continued to talk via fb here and there.
Last week, she hit me up on chat to ask how things were going and how I was handling my parents divorce. I told her I was managing and she said something along the lines of "Yeah last time I had a conversation over the phone with your husband he told me you were pretty distraught". I didn't care that she called my husband but she really did look for a round about way to inform me she talked to him on the phone. She made it out to be like she talked to him last week but hubs said it's been about 4 months LOL.
So yesterday while my husband, sister and I were sitting in my living room, the phone rang and it was her. I told him to answer it to see what she wanted, even though he didn't really want to talk to her, he's not really fond of the girl because she's dramafied. He answered the phone and I checked my phone to see if she called me. NOPE. She just called him to talk to him. She starts rambling about her life and how everything is looking up for her, she just found another job she's excited about, looking into buying a house. The whole time, my husband is looking at me making faces like, "Why did you make me answer this phone" LOL.
When he got off the phone with her about 30 minutes later, I told him and my sister that I was suspicious of her for calling him and not calling me. My sister agreed but my husband thought maybe it was just innocent. So we are all sitting there on our laptops and lo and behold, she hits him up on FB LOL. I begged him to chat with her just to see how far she would go but he told me to do it instead, he had no desire to talk to her.
Now remember, I threw this girl a baby shower when no one else would. I consoled her through all of her drama. When her daughter was only 2 weeks old, I watched her so she could go back to work. This girl was supposed to be "my friend".
I started chatting with her and it started out totally innocent. Then she started talking about how successful she's been lately, she's about to come into a lot of money with this job, blah blah blah. Starts complimenting herself about how she's a "go-getter" who knows how to work hard for what she wants and doesn't depend on a man for anything (yeah right lol).
THEN she starts throwing ME under the bus for being a stay at home mom. This is something her and I have talked about MANY times. She knew my husband preferred that I work to bring in extra money but since I have a child with disabilities I chose to stay home to help him with his issues. I also wanted to stay home with my other two while they are young and then go back to work when they got school age. Though he didn't agree, he respected my decision, at least. I've confided in this girl that sometimes I felt like my husband thought I was lazy for staying at home instead of working. Basically, everything I told this girl, she used it against me to make herself look good. She told him I should have taken action a long time ago, people across america work and their kids turn out ok, etc. She started really playing herself up to look good in front of my husband and just cut me down left and right. Finally I came out and told her it was me and told her to basically take a hike. Then my husband told her he didn't appreciate her disrespecting me like that and deleted her from his FB.
My husband was in total disbelief. He had NO idea about this girl. I told him several times that I felt like she befriended me to get to him because every time he came around she would brag about how successful and career oriented she was, blah blah blah. Basically, my husband thought she was just an innocent female that admired me and that was it. Sometimes, women know better. I am glad she showed her true colors so I could weed her out. She has been in one failed relationship after another and was SO jealous of my life. Women LOVE seeing a man who is committed and who handles business. She didn't need to date him to see what kind of guy he was, she was able to see it firsthand through befriending me. She always ranted and raved about how lucky I was to find a guy like him.....now I see why.
Trust your instincts. If someone rubs you the wrong way, there is probably a good reason. I totally trusted my husband with her. She has come over to pick stuff up from our house (old baby items, etc) when I wasn't around. My husband is totally devoted to me and had no interest but the silly girl still thought she had a shot with him. Now she just looks stupid.
My husband is glad I talked to her because like he said, he would have had no idea otherwise.....
Source: http://talkaboutmarriage.com/general-relationship-discussion/55112-our-mutual-female-friend.html
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